KINGDOM OF WISDOM: My Life

Is it necessary that we should confide everything to others?? Especially to our close ones. Well often this question creeps in every human beings mind at some stage of life. Confiding everything shows either our innocence or our truthfulness for others. One should be truthful towards others but its innocence that fetches us trouble. So what would a person do in order to avoid innocence but gain faith towards himself/herself from others?

Well I basically tackle this situation in a different manner. According to me confiding matters is done according to the value of the people with whom you want to confide. A wife or husband has higher privilege than other relations. A friend has higher privilege than a colleague.

One should always remember that confiding certain matters would resolve one’s problems while some would increase them. In such case it’s always better to have open talk in an indirect manner with the concerned person from a third person’s perspective. This not only gives us the clear picture in the person’s mind but also relieves us from the dilemma whether to confide or not.

Confiding matters with correct person solves the problem but with the wrong person it only increases. That’s where relationship level helps and suggests whether the person concerned really deserves to know the matter or not.

This funda not only helped me in my life but I also came to know how to read others mind before making a move in my life.

Keep this word in your mind in your life: confiding is the best ways to solve a problem and sometimes easiest way to ask for more.

I started blogging almost 6 months ago and since then i have been blogging everyday. Sometimes I would be surfing the web trying to figure out the ways to popularize my blog while sometimes I would be writing those post that my readers enjoy reading. But now with my University exams at the threshold, I'll be going under exile for next 2 weeks from blogging to concentrate on my exams..good bye bloggers..good bye my blog

Senior citizens are kind of people who have lot of experience, advice and knowledge to share with someone. They are the only kind of people living on the globe who are ready to lend ears to what others say. But how many times do we pay attention to what these people say. Anyway that’s not the topic here. I was talking to an old guy aged enough to be a grandpa of a 20 year old. I met this person in train when I was going to city. It started with normal introduction and some detailing. The best moment of the day came when I came to know about a strange ability that the man possessed. He told me “you are jovial, easy going with everyone”. I said “thanks”. But he said he didn’t mean to compliment me. He analyzed my character through the kind of food I eat. Somewhere during the chat I had mentioned about my eating habits. Well then he taught me this unique ability of character judgment after repeated persuasion. Here it goes. According to him the kind of food a man eats reflects his characters. The classification is like this:

1. Sweet: very caring, jovial, easy going, polite.

2. Salty: stingy, mean, selfish.

3. Bitter: stubborn, determined, clear mindset.

4. Spicy: short- tempered, impatient, rude.

Well I don’t know exactly whether this true or not but surly makes me think again and again as my character do resembles to the kind of food I eat. That doesn’t mean I’m like that. In fact I’ve all qualities except for the fact that they are in different proportions as the food I take. Hope you analyze your character too.

P.S.: it’s better to follow healthy eating habits. Overdoing one of its kind would land you in hospital.

Life is always about ups and downs. Surely my life has been like that. And I’m sure almost everyone’s life on the globe is like that. Do we achieve everything what we aspire to become in our lives?? Not exactly. In fact most of us are living the alternative we found when we failed to achieve what we aspired for. Now the question is how far have we accepted, implied that alternative and succeeded in our life. Well if we take a closer analysis and evaluate our progress 90% of us would arrive at one rank- average. In that case we have no one to blame other than ourselves. The very reason for this situation is we haven’t really taken the alternative choice as seriously as we took our aspirations in our early days.

In fact my life till now has also been like the ones in the 90% category. But I’m different in that 90% category too. As a matter of fact I’m unique even though I fall in that 90% category simply because of my different approach towards the alternative choice I had. At first we generally feel for the failure we faced for sometime. Then we half heartedly accept our alternative and live without any future aspirations. I aspire to BE THE BEST in the alternative I have.

This instinct wasn’t inborn but was cultivated and then developed thanks my English professor at school when I was doing my 11^th grade. My then English professor is perhaps the greatest person who has shown me the easier side of light and brought my talents to lime-light. One day she took a poem as a part of our syllabus. The poem was BE THE BEST by Douglas Malloch. The poet (perhaps the greatest ever) emphasized on that alternative we have and instills the spirit in us to “be the best” in what ever field we are. I don’t know about the poet but my professor did instill that spirit in me. This perhaps is the greatest work done by her if not to all of her students but at least to me.

This is the different approach that I’m talking about. Accepting the alternative choice of our life is not our achievement but aspiring to be the best in what ever field we are is the achievement. I’m not providing a medicine for your failure. God forbid. If you ever fail in your life (you will at least once) to achieve what you aimed for then aim to be the best in what you are in now instead of looking away at the train (success) you missed. I hope you will try to:

Be the Best

Generally as human beings we need motivation when good times are not with us. To achieve something in life we need not only role models but also ample motivation from others. For this reason many people in this world are self-motivating. I’m one amongst them. But the fact is that motivation through inspiration is far more effective for me. Even though self-motivation helps us to rejuvenate all our feelings and boosts our self-esteem, for me it is motivation through inspiration that keeps my battery charged in all aspects (emotionally, physically, and spiritually). Motivation through inspiration gives me one straight feeling and one tag- line that always keeps me on and on:

If he can, why can’t I????

Looking at the tag-line, you may think this motivation is nothing but jealousy. But you would be absolutely wrong. When I take a look at life of others and get inspired from them, I get a burning feeling to achieve a lot more from what they had in a different fashion. Motivation through inspiration is a kind a rocket fuel that sets me on fire and sends my self confidence level sky rocketing. Many people have inspired me. My dad- the way he made his disciplined life out o f nowhere without basic education, Bill Gates- who made his fortune even though being a college dropout, Adolf Hitler- who had nothing but his great orating ability to make him one of the greatest, powerful political leader ever. Many of you wouldn’t agree with me. In fact most of the people have a false notion in their mind that everyone has unique abilities and we shouldn’t try to follow exact steps of other people. Indeed we do and we shouldn’t try to copy others as it’ll rob us of our identity, but all those people with unique abilities climb up in life and only those people who try to adopt those unique abilities along with theirs and implement them in life climb up the success of ladder. That is what motivation through inspiration provides me. It jet shoots the anxiety within me to learn that uniqueness of the person who inspired me and tells me to implement it in my life along with my special talent. I feel that

Intelligent is one, who learns from his mistake,

Great is one who learns from others mistake.

Motivation through inspiration makes me observe the mistakes the people made (who inspired me) on the road to success in life and gives me an edge or should I say a chance to rectify that mistake in my life before even committing it. In this way I’m able to get a hold of that unique ability that they have. Remember motivation from others in life is general for everyone but getting motivated through inspiration from others and bringing up other’s unique abilities along with ours, devoid our life of the miseries others might have faced. I believe that this motivation from inspiration would certainly inspire you to get motivated through inspiration from others.

It took me 17 years (includes childhood) to understand the importance of learning from home and school. And today I would like to make it 18 as finally my 1^st year college has come to an end. When I entered school for the first time in my life, I was emotionally broken that I showed by crying because I had to leave my parents and study (separation for 6 hours). It’s usual in everyone’s life. Next when I entered my college life, I was emotionally broken more because of parting from my school friends. But this time I restrained my emotions as I’m well grown and matured. And now finally my 1^st year college has come to end. At first I thought college life would be very different than school one. And I was right indeed. It is different. Only all those who have stepped into college know the true essence of fun. And now that I’ve tasted it, I’ve only 3 (precious) years to enjoy, relish and live this college life. My 1^st year college has been a hit for me (both in academics and in college culture fun with friends). At present my friends are making a home video of our 1^st year college life. When I get it, I’ll definitely share with you. That’s all folks for this year. I hope you guys also sure love your college days. Bye. Enjoy life :)

One person who has had a great influence in my life is my tutor in 12^th grade- Mr. Arul Selvan. Usually teachers are only concerned with taking classes and finishing portions. But Arul sir is not among those. He is the visionary who has dedicated years for teaching and produce brilliant students and more importantly to produce useful human being in the society. He would always give lecture to improve life. I don’t how many students who have studied under him still remember his words but I certainly I do. I’m indebted to this person who told me of these 5 priceless assets that a successful man should have. Here I’m sharing them with you:

1. Family: Perhaps the most important asset without which a man is a lonely animal. Only family teaches man what is life and relationship. Without family man cannot survive.

2. Money: Without this no man in this world can survive. That doesn’t we have to be money minded but we should earn money at least to fulfill our basic needs.

3. Health: The most important of the 5 mantras. Without health even though if we’ve other four, life would only be dried cow dung.

4. Attitude: Only a person with good attitude can earn everything in life. Good attitude is the foundation of a healthy strong relationship.

5. Social Involvement: Do something to the needy at least once in your life time. By doing this you’ll prove God that you were born for a purpose.

I don’t know whether these mantras will help you lead your life or not but these are surely my watch words.I just wished to share it with you. I owe Arul Sir for the most priceless advice given to me in my life. Thank you sir.

Just when I was going to watch UEFA Champions League semifinals between Barcelona and Manchester United, my dad shouted at me to go to sleep. It was 12:00 A.M. I had made an agreement a day before that I’ll be watching the match at night and so I’ll study the whole day. Well I kept my promise but at last I was at the receivers end and was not allowed to see the match. My brain went berserk. My mom was watching the scene from behind and thought I was going to start a fight in the middle of the night. But that’s when my CHILL PILL came in handy. Well chill pill is not any medicine that I’m referring to, but just the method I use to control my anger. Anger management is certainly not a child’s game. It requires lots of practice. Well here are few tips to control your brain when it’s on bulls ride:

1. Do not focus on the actions of the person that seems to provoke anger in you.

2. Leave the place silently and look at the mirror.

3. Focus on the expressions on your face. You’ll laugh in your heart. A person looks silly when his face is full of anger. That’s why people around us laugh when we are angry.

4. Try making cartoon like expressions. If you can’t imagine the anger invoking person in cartoon style.

5. Few minutes later go and have some water. This’ll cool down your brain and whole system.

Well the above tips just might sound silly but these have saved me from ruining my reputation at many instances. I wanted to write something useful and this is what I came across from my life. So next time you are going to explode with anger on someone try a CHILL PILL. Chao.

This is it. Finally I got the chance for what I've been waiting for. To play in volleyball team for interdepartmental tournament .After a hard practice for past 1 week I finally got this big opportunity that my seniors thought I deserved .Well not many 1st years get this .but in my department the scenario seemed to be opposite .There were bunch of inexperienced seniors and experienced juniors who had volleyball experience at division level during their school days .And with the commitment shown by the seniors for the welfare of the team it was evident that juniors would get the chance to play and I was one among them .The whole tournament has been of surprises .Big teams lost and those believed to be eliminated at the very first round made it to the next round. However the

Semifinals was a treat to watch for the spectators .The first semifinal took place between EEE and MBA department. As EEE is our college team, it was predicted that the semis would be a piece of cake for them and they would easily win it. So did happen. EEE won semis but not as they were believed to be. MBA showed great commitment and even won the first set. However EEE went on to win the remaining two. But the way MBA battled it out won them a great applause not only from the crowd but also from the Physical Education Director (PED) himself .next my department went on to gain a comfortable win over MCA. At last the moment came that none of us even thought about at the beginning of the tournament. We were the finalist against EEE. I heard someone in the crowd saying that match seemed like ROOKIES vs. PROS. And how can I blame the spectator as he was mindset matched everyone who had come to see the match. But there mindset couldn’t suppress the confidence my team was having. And after practicing for nearly a week we were not ready to give away easily. The match kick started. I played for a while but then another player was substituted in for me as I was out of my battery. The match went on interestingly. Sometimes my team would have an advantage of 2-3 points while sometimes it would be just opposite. In the end we lost a hard fought first set 25 - 23. But my team came back with a bang. We went on to have a substantial lead with 15-7. But then came a big change. One of the seniors who had never practiced volleyball came and decided to play in and substituted one player out. Though many seniors were against this they finally allowed this idiot. This broke the coordination between the players and as a result we gave easy points to rivals. Adding to this the substituted senior made some mistakes which eventually brought us down. But other players compensated this with their game play and brought us back into the game. But this wasn’t sufficient for our mistakes and we lost by a hairline margin of two points. Anyway everyone gave a great applause for our fight including our rivals. Even though we lost the match, I would certainly remember this day in my memory book.

I,m a kind of person who likes to live life to all limits barring those horizons which restrict our natural instinct.that's why i joined Bharath University,Chennai for my graduation.BHARATH INSTITUTE OF SCIENCE AND TECHNOLOGY(BIST as called) is a perfect place for all those engineering aspirants who dream to strive,excel and achieve in life both professionally and socially with loads of masti(fun).I joined BIST in 2007 for pursuing B.Tech in computer science and engineering.Call it my lucky day or what ever you like i made friends in a jiffy also with seniors which other first years not even dare to in other universities.soon i had a gang of my own and there now i'm enjoying life with a bit of studies.